Settling

The first saturday in April I took my cats in to the vet for their annual exam and shots, and decided to take them to the place that I used to work at even though their prices are a bit higher. I don't really like change. When I used to work there, almost every Saturday (since towards the end of my tenure I had worked there an obscenely long time) my job was filling prescriptions and giving advice over the phone; the place you sat to do that was in the back right next to the back doors of the exam rooms. So during downtimes the vets and I used to chat. One of those vets was the one my kitties and I saw.

Upon entering the room she asked "how have you been?" and then quickly afterwards "please tell me you are not still dating/not dating that same guy." Which actually made me crack up, somewhere along the line that became my schtick. People knew me as the girl who had a non boyfriend for 4 years. Yes, I realize that says nothing good about me for allowing it to happen... so you can shut up now with your pearls of "wisdom." ;-) I informed her that no, I was not. And after discussing briefly what ended up happening she said to me, "did you ever know about Krista and her boyfriend? He did the same thing to her." I had not heard about this. Apparently one of the other vets there actually dated someone for 5 years before he pulled his head out of his ass and decided to finally admit that she was dating him and that he did, in fact have a girlfriend. Now they are happy. But apparently before that happened, about a year ago Krista and the vet I was talking to went to a happy hour where they saw Krista's boyfriend with his friends. They joined up with them and one of the women there asked "so how do you know so-and-so (the guy's name)." She said "I'm friends with Krista." To which she got a completely blank look and a "who?" So then she said "so-and-so's girlfriend." The woman said "he has a girlfriend???" They had been dating for 4 years at that point.

If you wonder what prompted this, head on over and read Sam's blog about people settling in dating relationships. The first thing that hit me was, any guy that takes 5 years to admit he's even dating you most likely just got to the point where he realized he was getting older, probably won't find anyone better so he settled. I wouldn't want to even have that nagging thought in my head. Maybe I'm reading their situation totally wrong since I only heard about it from an outsider's point of view, but then again- maybe I'm not. Everyone deserves to have someone who loves them because of who they are not just because they are "good enough." Especially Krista and especially myself.

As I was paying my bill and walking out, Susie- a girl I used to work with there- said "wow, I heard you broke up with him. I honestly thought you would never do it." But really it was quite simple... once you take off the blinders and see things for what they really are instead of what you want them to be, its easy. I hope it works out for Krista and that she is happy, I really do. But her method? Not really the one I'd suggest.

5.19.08

I have decided that my body hates me. It likes to revolt against me and do everything possible to make me miserable.

That is all.

5.17.08

And now time for something completely different... video blog!